Good guys finish last?
My ass!
While they might not finish first, they for damn sure don’t finish last.
We love them — good guys. They’re the polar opposite of the bad boy. They don’t do drugs, have never been to prison, have 401k’s, and most important, they floss before bedtime. Contrary to popular belief, “good guys” have always gotten play from the ladies. (And they always will).
Good guys are like “clean up” men of sorts. They’re the ones we run to after the bad boy has punched us in the eye, convinced us to cash out and hand over all our savings, and repeatedly failed to return our calls. For the most part, good guys earn our hearts the same way crooks beat the legal system–on a technicality. After we’ve grown tired of having our assess kicked around the block (literally and figuratively) by bad boys, the good guy becomes, by default, attractive to us.
As a matter of fact, there are even some of us who don’t need to get our asses kicked to fall for the good guy. Plenty of women actually prefer the good guy. There’s something special about a man who opens doors, pays his taxes, and can pronounce words with more than one syllable.
However, don’t be fooled. Women who are not accustomed to dating good guys should take heed. One of the biggest, yet most persistent fallacies about good guys is that they can do no wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth. Women incorrectly assume that since he’s a good guy, he’ll always be good to us because good is his first name. Not the case. Dating a good guy can give a girl a false sense of security. We’ve bought into the idea that good guys finish last and as a result, we become extremely comfortable in our place because we assume that since nobody else wants them, they should feel lucky to have us. Wrong! Even worse, we begin to take them for granted, we’re not always nice, and we grant them our unfettered trust because we’re convinced that they’re not going anywhere. Wrong again.
I can tell you from personal experience that the only thing worse than being cheated on or dumped unexpectedly by a guy is being cheated on or dumped unexpectedly by a guy you believed to be incapable of the task. If I can give women any advice when it comes to good guys, it would be: Do not underestimate them. Provided that opportunity makes it feasible for them to do so, good guys are just as willing and just as likely to do what the bad boys do. In fact, they use our underestimation of their ability to their advantage and do the unimaginable. Don’t be fooled by the non-aggressive, polished demeanor. A man who writes poems can cheat just as well as a man who kites checks. Trust me on this one.
By now you should have read MAN LAW. If you haven’t, go back and read it (here). After you’ve read it, please remember that no man is exempt from THE LAW. None. Before you go putting all your faith in the guy with the glasses, dockers, and good manners, remember that he’s still a man, and you need to be equally alert and suspicious of his behavior as you would be with any other guy.
That’s one to grow on.
Don’t believe me? Listen!!!
You’re welcome!
Ciao!!!
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