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“I just like women!”
Argh!
I hate that damn excuse!
It seems as though whenever you ask a man why he cheats on his girl or why he’s not in a committed relationship, the standard, acceptable answer has become, “I just like women.”
You like women?
You’re a heterosexual male.
No shit!
Are you trying to say that mean that men who are in relationships and are faithful to their girlfriends don’t like women? No, can’t be. Of course they like women too. Making a commitment doesn’t extinguish a man’s desire for the opposite sex. It’s just a promise not to act on them.
Girls, let me tell you what “I like women” really means. It’s code for:
I like non-committal sex with as many women as humanly possible or as often as my budget or time will allow.
(In other words, “I just like p***y!”)
Again, it’s not that men in committed relationships don’t like this too. It’s just that they are willing to forgo that “thing” for the comfort and security of a relationship. Be honest.
When it comes to anything in life, almost everything is a trade off.
- you can’t be in two places at once
- you can’t do and not do something at the same time, and
- it’s either coke or pepsi.
There are no in betweens with some things and relationships are one of them. (or are they?)
I often hear men proclaim that the reason they haven’t settled down (with one woman) because:
- they’re too focused on work
- they don’t have enough time
- they can’t find a good woman
And I say:
- bullshit.
- bullshit.
- bullshit.
Now I know this may come as a shock to some, but the truth is:
men who don’t commit don’t because they don’t want to.
Simple.
The outlier.
No one is stopping them from making a commitment but them.
Are there men out there who are unattractive that they can’t score a woman no matter how hard they try? Yes. But they don’t count. Why? Because they are outliers. In my mind, they don’t really exist. Shit, in this dating market? Men have the dating game by the balls! Any man who can’t get a girl, not even an ugly one, either doesn’t want one or he’s an outlier.
There is always going to be a small segment of the population who can’t date because they are so socially awkward and/or so overwhelming unattractive that they will probably never find love organically. That’s really unfortunate for them, but hey, it’s life. However, under no circumstance are you to extend your sympathy to the plight of a single man. They are single because they want to be single. Period.
(weirdo!!!!!)
Then, there are guys who have physical characteristics or mannerisms that make them unattractive but these issues can be fixed. However, these men are too damn stubborn to fix them. Same thing. No sympathy. If they choose not the lose the weight, drop the glasses, improve their wardrobe, sorry, no sympathy. They deserve to be single and miserable. And you can tell them I said it! [Note: These guys don’t count either. They're not outliers, they're just weirdos.]
The “I like women” excuse has become so common and acceptable that it’s opened the door for the second in line bullshit excuse:: “I’m single because I can’t find a good woman.”
What!
Bullshit!!!
In this market?
We live in a world where women are willing to go on national tv and catch strep throat from Flava Flav–three years in a row. Now do I consider any of these women worthy of any position more prestigious than “host” at a brothel? No. However, the whole phenomenon of women going on television to vie for the love of a basehead is indicative of the larger market. There are disproportionately more women single and willing to date beneath them than there are men. If a man can’t even get a decent woman in this market, he might as well slit both wrists now because the forecast ain’t look too good (playa).
A woman one relayed some fatherly advice her dad gave her regarding single men which warns:
“A man not finding is a man not wanting.”
The way I see it, “good women” practically “grow on trees.” Women not only outnumber men in virtually every age group in this country, since men can’t easily date younger women and women who earn less than they do (a woman no so much), there are almost infinitely more women available to one man than there are men available to one woman. And since women are, on average, more more church-going and less promiscuous than men, a “good” woman is not too hard to find.
In sum, my advice is to steer clear of guys who say, “I just like women” or “I can’t find a good woman.” It’s not true. If a man really wants to date and be in a committed relationship with one woman, he can. He’s just having fun. That’s all. And there ain’t nothing wrong with that.
~Ciao!
~Remember to be kind to yourself!
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