1) Dating is a competitive sport. Learn the rules if you want to play the game. 2) You are not crazy; it’s not you. Unless, of course, you are; then it is. Seek therapy. 3) When it comes to seeking a partner, Men prioritize sex and physical attractiveness. Women prioritize emotional...
If you’re single*** and you aren’t choosing to be single, there are several possible reasons for this. What I do here is observe the current dating landscape and trends, examine all the ins and outs, report my findings, analyze, and share my advice or possible solutions if they exist. I’ve been doing this for...
Before You Date Pt. II:: Do Your work! “I keep watching what I do to see what I actually believe.” ~Sister Helen Prejean In my last substantive entry, I introduced MAN LAW to you all and offered a quick overview of what men value, how they think, and their corresponding behavior. While I consider...
Before You Date Pt. I:: Know “THE LAW” Successful dating depends a lot on these three things: (1) luck, (2) timing, and (3) skill. Unfortunately, I can’t do anything about your luck, or your genetics, or your looks. And while you can control some aspects of your physical appearance (i.e., your “controllables”), for the...
The Power of Positive Thinking…is not real! (Don’t believe me? Prove me wrong.) If you haven’t noticed by now, a major theme of this blog is this: “It’s not you! You’re not bad/crazy/lazy/ugly/stupid/mean/weird/etc.” If you’re single, it’s not because you are a “bad person,” or “hate men,” or have “negative thoughts,” or “give...
I am not a big Terry McMillan fan. In fact, I’m not a fan at all. Never was. I’m the first to admit that I’m a bit of a book or literary snob and (what my best (male) friend calls) “You Go Girl” books are simply not my cup of tea (more power to...
Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson Chapter 1 I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost … I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter 2 I walk down the same street. There...
If you’re single*** and you aren’t choosing to be single, there are several possible reasons for this. What I do here is observe the current dating landscape and trends, examine all the ins and outs, report my findings, analyze, and share my advice or possible solutions if they exist. I’ve been doing this for...
“stop keeping it under lock and key…” Last time, in Part I of this piece, we touched on the question that single horny women everywhere are dying to know: “When is the right time to have sex with a man?” I began by addressing the ever popular and often evoked 90-day rule. Two...
So, last night, I’m watching the movie “Something New” and I became so enraged (okay, only slightly enraged) by an issue that came up in the movie more than once that I had to stop snacking on my maple bacon (at twelve something in the morning!) and write this blog post. (btw, if you...
Love & Money: When It Comes to Rich Men, Don’t be Penny Wise & Pound Foolish! Several blog posts ago, I posted an article from a website that deals with love, dating, and relationships. The article is written by Elise Nersesian and is entitled, “He’s Not Rich? So What?” The basic premise of the...
A Comment to the Comment
Late last week, I posted a blog entry on the topic of adultery. Leave it to me to go against the conventional wisdom and speak out against calling women who sleep with married men “whores, floozies, mate poachers, skanks, home-wreckers, rogue bitches, and girls gone wild who pose a threat to women everywhere.” They...
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